Transform ‘knowing of’ to actually ‘knowing’

How many people do you know that keep on ‘telling you’ how long they ‘think’ they have known you for?

You know, the person you attended school, college, football or dance with… like 20 something years ago.
You briefly kept in contact; the odd chance meeting on the street, the exchanging of numbers; the random texts every couple of years… the most recent Facebook pokes lol and status updates… Yet they seem to think they ‘know’ you.
Yesterday, a well known radio DJ who I ‘knew’ from Play Centre, said he has known me for about 28 years… The fact of the matter is,
he has ‘known of me’ for XX years, he does not know me, in the here and now.
People, we need to stop signing virtual references for people that we knew, but do not actually know, now.
What is that persons hobbies?
Where do they live?
When last did you use the toilet in their home?
How would they react to disrespect (now, not in the past when you were in school)?
What is their life plan?
What is their parents/siblings/children/partner’s names?
Where do they work and what is their job title?
If the above is difficult to answer, you don’t ‘know’ them, you know of them.
Something to think about, right?
Get to know those who you think you know.
Copyright © 2013. All Rights Reserved. Novena-Chanel Davies.

A Cookie Jar of our Accomplishments

We can write our achievements on a CV and tell family and friends, but how many of us actually sit with the feeling of our achievement, I mean really sit back and tell ourselves just how well we’ve done and how far we’ve come?

There’s a Caribbean saying… “Self praise is no praise” well how misunderstood and self-defeating is that? If you can’t see how well you’ve done and can’t appreciate yourself, why should anyone else? Why should your children appreciate their achievements and push to gain more?? Honour your experiences and be thankful!

Things you will need:

*A Jar with a lid, a jar you really like, you can even decorate it!

* At least 5 4 sheets of A4 Paper. Colourful ones would be great but white sheets are also okay.

* Colouring pencils or crayons * Scissors

Lets get started!:

On the A4 sheet write a short sentence, paragraph or simple word that states or reminds you of something that you have accomplished, achieved or done that you are proud of. It can be something like finishing school, getting your job, obtaining a degree or certificate, overcoming an event or situation.  just make it something that YOU feel proud of and good about.

Continue to do this until you can’t think of anything else to write. The list will continue to grow over time so don’t worry if you can’t find a lot straight away. We make daily accomplishments everyday just by living.. mine today is getting up earlier than usual and making it on time to see my beautiful Goddaughter’s face as she waved me off to go into school 😉 it reminded me of how loved and appreciated I am, and how far I’ve come from being that little girl at the school gate. You see, it can be the littlest of things!.

Then, once you’ve done, cut the sentences/paragraphs out into individual strips and roll the pieces of paper  around a pencil, so that it rolls up. Some people may prefer to simply fold the paper up, and that’s also okay.

Now… place the pieces of paper, your ‘cookies’  into your ‘cookie jar’ 😉

Then, whenever you forget how great you are, how far you’ve come, what you have already achieved and just how unique and amazing you are… Open your cookie jar and pull out a ‘cookie’, sit back and remember how great it felt to accomplish that cookie!

Try to remember how you felt, what it looked like, the sounds, smells and the feelings in your tummy! Well that depends on what it is of course! Lol. Just remember, you are amazing and you have done so much already!

Have fun!

Have a blessed and productive day, full of open doors,

Novena-Chanel

Copyright © 2011 Novena-Chanel Davies. All Rights Reserved.

Creating a Cookie Jar of Dates

Yes, it’s easy to say ‘date yourself’ ‘treat yourself’ but where/how do you begin???

Well are there somethings that you’ve always wanted to do? Something’s that you know you need to do or want to do from time-to-time? This is the starting point!

Now this is where the arts and crafts begins 😉 Why not start by creating yourself a ‘Cookie Jar’ of Dates – Noooo not with actual cookies!!

Things you will need:

*A Jar with a lid, a jar you really like, you can even decorate it!

* At least 5 4 sheets of A4 Paper. Colourful ones would be great but white sheets are also okay.

* Colouring pencils or crayons

* Scissors Lets get started!:

 

On the A4 sheet write a short sentence, paragraph or simple word that states or reminds you of something that you want to do or would love to do! Don’t worry about the cost at this point.. Continue to do this until you can’t think of anything else to write. The list will continue to grow over time so don’t worry if you can’t find a lot straight away.

Then, once you’ve done, cut the sentences/paragraphs/pictures out into individual strips and  then think about the time you’ll need to do each thing, e.g., a face mask and some quiet time might be *two hours*, visiting a special place might be *half a day*  etc.  Then think about the cost, is it something that is *free*, something that will cost say £5.00 or £50.00?

Now, at the back of the date cookie use a colour and/or write the time the date will take and the cost… e.g (blue dot = 1 hour date & I’ve written £3.00, as this will be the cost of the oats, honey and bananas for my face mask). Dates with yourself don’t have to be expensive, it’s simply about enjoying, loving and appreciating yourself! Just make it something that YOU want to do.

Great! now that that’s done! Simply fold the paper up, ensuring that the colour (date code) and cost is visible, and place your dates, or cookies, into your ‘cookie jar’ 😉

Then, whenever you find that you have a spare hour, day, weekend or even ten minutes! (yes, 10 minutes can be spent thinking about an achievement and remembering how you achieved it, how great you’ve done and how far you’ve come, or even spent doing a short bit of relaxation!)  Try to remember how you felt, what it looked like, the sounds, smells and the feelings in your tummy! Well that depends on what it is of course! Lol.  Just remember, you are amazing and you have done so much already!

The most important thing about the cookie jar of dates is that you do exactly what YOU want to do in honour of yourself; for YOU.

I hope you find this gift of the cookie jar as helpful and fun as it was for me discovering it from the great Christiane Sanderson. Thank you Christiane for your gift of ‘The Cookie Jar’ and I hope you don’t mind my adjustments 😉

 

Have a blessed and productive day,

 

Novena-Chanel

 

Copyright © 2011 Novena-Chanel Davies. All Rights Reserved.