There will be times when others project their own insecurities, fears, sadness, and disappointments, on to you – and at other times, you might do the same to others, and life situations.
One of the things I teach clients who come to me for CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), is to begin understanding their automatic thoughts. Below is a list of some of the common automatic thoughts we all have to some degree. However, how often, and how intrusive these thoughts are, maybe a ‘symptom’ of an underlining issue that might benefit from some attention, greater exploration, and care.
As said, some of these are common to some degree, so as therapists, we work to openly explore these thoughts (and there roots), with you – without negative judgement.
I hope you find these helpful.
21 TYPES OF DISTORTED AUTOMATIC THOUGHTS
- Mind Reading. You assume that you know what people think without having
sufficient evidence of their thoughts “He thinks I’m a loser”.
- Fortunetelling. You predict the future negatively. Things will get worse, or there
is danger ahead “I’ll fail that exam,” or “I won’t get the job.”
- Catastrophizing. You believe that what has happened or will happen will be so
awful and un-bearable that you won’t be able to stand it. “It would be terrible if I failed”.
- Labelling. You assign global negative traits to yourself and others. “I’m undesirable,” or “He’s a rotten person.”
5. Discounting positives. You claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial.
“That’s what wives are supposed to do – so doesn’t count when she’s nice to me.” Or
“Those successes were easy, so that don’t matter.”
- Negative filtering. You focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. “Look at all of the people who don’t like me.”
- Overgeneralizing. You perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. “This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things.”